Has someone ever hurt you so bad that you wished they got hit by a trailer? Has someone ever did you wrong and they never said sorry? Has someone you trusted so much betrayed you and left you shattered? Did that friend you trusted so much spilled out your darkest secrets to everyone who cared to listen? Were you bitter? Were you sad? Were you annoyed? Did revenge cross your heart?
Darling, you should know you do not need that , yes you don’t, why would you belittle yourself and make yourself equal to the one who did you wrong? Have you ever seen a Lion rolling in the mud with a pig? Have you ever seen an ordinary stone stored in a box with pearls? Would you make yourself as horrible as they were to you with vengeance? NO!
Which is why you need to be forgiving, forgive people and let things go, life is too short to worry about stupid people and really stupid things, time is too precious to be wasted with bitter thoughts of how they did you wrong but guess what? You are human and it is normal for you to get hurt, betrayed, castigated, hated for no tangible reasons at times.
Yes, I know you wish you had a sledge hammer to smash out their brains when you saw them the other day, oh I know how you had carefully mapped out plans to “ruin” their life the way they ruined yours, but really? What satisfaction would you get from that? Do you even know you would not get the peace of mind you thought you would have if you revenge? The guilt would always come back to haunt you, it is sad but true! Why will you let someone that hurt you once hurt you twice! Why will you give someone that doesn’t worth it so much attention in your life?

FORGIVENESS which simply means the action or process of forgiving or being forgiven is the best thing you can do to free yourself when someone hurts you, some think some offenses are unforgivable others think some deserve a taste of their own medicine, I say life is a circle, it will all come back to you, I wasn’t the type that let things go, but when I realized I deny myself peace of mind over someone that is probably happy they did me wrong, I stopped feeling sorry for myself and I channeled my energy and time elsewhere, yes I used to say some offenses are unforgivable too, but we offend people knowingly or unknowingly everyday and they let it go.
My grandmother would say ‘Ko si ese ti a le dariji, Koda ti won ba pa ni l’ omoje’ meaning no offense is unforgivable even if your child was murdered.
Free your mind from bitter thoughts and thoughts of vengeance because darling the best form of vengeance for those who did you wrong is SUCCESS, yes SUCCESS! Why not work towards something today? It is not too late too start, they thought they had drowned you they never knew you could swim your way out, they never knew you were of the sea.
# xoxo



About Kanzah

I am not cute or built to suit a fashion model size, but when i start to tell them, they think am telling lies, i say, it is in the reach of my arms, the span of my hips. I am a woman phenomenally, phenomenal woman,that's me - Maya Angelou.

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